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The Family First Newsletter
Promoting family unity one issue at a time
Vol. 10 Issue 28 - Week of July 16, 2007
ISSN: 1527-6201
©2007 - Joyce Pierce --All Rights Reserved


In this issue:

 

Dinnertime & Debt - Is There a Connection?
Do You Encourage Your Children to Play?

Back to School, or Back to the Poor House?
Spending More Than You Make


 

Good morning!

 

Where has this summer gone?  Seems like I was just packing up my Christmas decorations and now I'm counting the months (weeks?) before I'll be dragging it all out again.  I hope you'll make the most of what's probably your last month before kids go back to school. 

 

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I am grateful for all of the blessings in my life, and I appreciate you!  Please forward this issue to someone who may benefit from it! 


Joyce Moseley Pierce

 


Dinnertime & Debt - Is There a Connection?
by Joey Hall

 

Jill Cooper said, "Going out to eat is one of the top five causes of debt.  We go out to eat because we can't face a dirty kitchen. Get those dirty dishes out of the sink!!  Keeping your kitchen empty of dirty dishes is the key to saving money."

 

How many times have you eaten out for one of these reasons:

  • the kitchen was too messy

  • the kitchen was finally clean & you couldn't bear to mess it up (lol - I've done this)

  • dinner burned (or just didn't turn out or taste good)

  • cooking was going to take too long

  • dinnertime snuck up on you & you had no idea what to make

 

Brenda Bennett, author of "What's For Diner?" has often said, "Plan to eat out. Don't eat out because you didn't plan." The cost of eating out really adds up. Even if you're "just" grabbing fast food meals, you can easily spend $5 per person. Eating at a sit-down restaurant can easily run $10 per person.

 

Let's say the Hall family eats fast food once a week, and goes somewhere nicer to sit down and eat twice a month. There are 5 of us. My favorite fast food is In-N-Out Burger, and going there costs about $25 (plus gas, because it's about a 10 minute drive). My kids' favorite sit-down place is Olive Garden, which easily costs $75 for all of us (and even more gas. Olive Garden's half an hour away).

 

Over a year, 52 trips to In-N-Out will cost us $1300. 24 trips to Olive Garden will cost us $1800. For a total of $3100. We will only have eaten 76 meals, which means that costs almost $41 per meal. Or just over $8 per serving. Plus all that gas!

 

Assuming my kitchen was clean & well stocked with food we like, could I feed my family for less than $8 per serving? Oh my goodness! YES!!

 

Money savings is the #1 reason my local freezer class participants give when asked why they participate. We make a week's worth of main dishes that will feed 6 adults for $50. Which comes to about $7 per meal for a family of six, or just over $1.00 per person.  MUCH less than the $8.00 per serving average when eating out.  

 

Freezer cooking saves us money in other ways, too.

  • We spend less on the weekly trips to the grocery store, because we don't need any dinner ingredients. We just buy milk, bread, produce, and food for lunches.

  • We eat out less because there IS something quick & easy to fix for dinner, right in the freezer.

  • We're using less gas by not driving to restaurants

  • We use less energy because a full freezer keeps cold more efficiently than an empty freezer

  • We're not throwing out "mystery food" from the freezer. Everything is labeled, which removes the guessing. And everything is getting eaten during the month, so nothing has to be thrown out because it went bad.

  • We're using less water to wash dishes, too. All the prep work has been done in the class. So all dinner requires is thawing it out, and quickly following the preparation directions. The only dishes are the cooking dish & the place settings!

I don't want to give you the idea that we never eat out. We go out to celebrate. Or for date night. But it's almost never because the kitchen is too messy to cook. Thanks to my freezer class and a determination to stick to my budget, eating out is a special occasion again. Not just my desperate attempt to avoid a sink full of dirty dishes.

 

Joey Hall is the creator and owner of www.FreezerSmarts.com .   Visit her website for your free starter kit, and be sure to tell your friends about it!
 


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Do You Encourage Your Children to Play?
by:  Mark Brandenburg

 

Your children need to play. They need to play for many reasons. Many fathers today remember spending countless hours playing with siblings or friends during their childhood. Parents would drop you off somewhere and your imaginations would take over as you became soldiers, famous ballplayers, dinosaur hunters, etc.

There are many factors that make it more difficult for children to play in today’s world. There is an emphasis on early academics. There is more TV watching today by children than ever before. There is the seductive attraction of video games. There is also the need for constant supervision of our kids in urban environments.

These factors and others have helped to create children who sometimes have forgotten how to have imaginative play. They’ll have a house full of toys but say “I’m bored” or that they have nothing to do. They may look to their parents to entertain them, rather than creating their own play.

What is the importance of having your children engage in creative play when they’re young? Creative play is believed by many child researchers to form the foundation of emotional, creative, and intellectual growth in later years. It should be considered a normal part of a child’s development. Sadly, many young children don’t have the opportunity to engage in much creative play because they are presented with “alternatives” like video/computer games or excessive TV watching.

While some of these alternatives claim to benefit children (train your child on computers early to get a head start!), there is nothing like creative play. Other alternatives do not allow your children’s fantasies to roam freely. The idea of replacing your child’s creative play with academic work may be based on good intentions, but will rob your child of a precious opportunity.

How can fathers help to encourage imaginative play in their children? Many of us are not knowledgeable about this topic and have left this work to others. Here are some ideas:

  • Be willing to be fully involved with your child’s creative play. Yes, that means that you will be a wild horse running through the desert (your living room) at times. Too adult for that? Get over it!

  • Realize that you don’t have to entertain your kids all of the time. When they start to expect to be entertained, they will be less likely to engage in play. Set them free in a room without TV or video games and let them go to it.

  • Get them into nature when possible. Let them play with the soil, the sand, or the water whenever you can.

  • Consider “tapering down” the quantity and types of toys that your children have around the house. Having huge numbers of toys that leave little to the imagination does not encourage creative play. Children often do best with simple toys, or even household items that are readily accessible (wooden spoons, pots and pans).

  • Provide artistic opportunities for your child to express what he/she is feeling.

  • Tell stories with rich images to your children and read to them often. Reading fairy tales is a wonderful way to provide these images as well.

  • Consider the amount of TV watching that your child is engaged in each day. Explore alternatives to watching TV that would involve more creative play. You may have to be the catalyst for your child if there is initial resistance to this.

All around us, the adult world is being thrust upon our children at earlier and earlier ages. We are encouraged as parents to help our young kids “get ahead” academically or to buy them the latest fads in toys. As fathers, it is our responsibility to look beyond all of this to what our children truly need. Our children need to do what they do very naturally when they are given the opportunity. They need to play.

Give your children the chance to prepare themselves for life as an adult in the best way possible. It’s the only chance that they’re going to get.

Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches men to be better fathers and husbands. He is the author of “25 Secrets of Emotionally
Intelligent Fathers” http://www.markbrandenburg.com/father.htm  For a free ecourse for fathers, articles, and a FREE bi-weekly
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Back to School, or Back to the Poor House?
By Tawra Kellam

Back to school is a time when many moms witness their money sprout wings and take flight, finding their homes at retail stores across America. I know that consumer spending is good for the economy, but I don’t take it upon myself to keep the entire US economy propped up, so when my first-grade son announced that he wanted a backpack with rollers, I saw this as a wonderful financial teaching moment. His school is small, and he doesn't walk to or from school. He didn't need rollers.
 
I told my son that I would give him $8 toward a backpack. I told him that if he wanted a fancier one, he could put up some of his allowance money for the difference. That's the rule at our house. Mom and Dad buy the basics the kids buy the extras. It was amazing how my son’s perception of the need for rollers changed when his allowance was on the line. Yes, he has concluded, a regular backpack will do the trick this year.
Thousands of parents are buying back-to-school supplies. From crayons and notebooks to calculators and lunch boxes, the list of what to buy can be as long as the list of your kids’ excuses.

I know that you are anxious to get your kids back into school, but there is no need to take out a second mortgage just to get rid of them. Instead, use some of these money-saving tips from www.LivingOnADime.com  and you can happily send your kids to school and keep some of the cash for mom’s back-to school celebration!
 
*Wait for the list to come out and stick to it, otherwise you might buy things you don't need. Remember, the Bank of Mom doesn’t pay for frills. Any extras the kids want will have to be funded from their own cash reserves. I do understand that it is nice for kids to have “hip” back-to-school supplies. I look at yard sales and thrift stores for brand-name finds. For instance, I recently found a gently used Barbie backpack and a Barbie lunch box and no one would know that I paid $1.00 each instead of the $32 that Becky Johnson’s mom paid. Who says stay at home mom’s don’t make any money?
 
*Don’t buy back to school clothes. Children don't need an entirely new wardrobe every fall. Some mom’s act as if aliens clothes-napped their kids’ clothes the night before school and the fashion police will come arrest them if they don’t buy the latest designer clothes right away. The kids wore clothes all year long, didn't they? If they need something like a new pair of shoes or new jeans then buy what they need, but don’t just buy a new wardrobe because it’s the thing to do.
 
*Use back to school sales to your advantage.

If you know your kids go through a package of socks, underwear or jeans every six months then stock up while they are on sale. The same is true of crayons, paper, notebooks, backpacks and lunch boxes. My son went through two backpacks and two lunch boxes last year, so this year we will buy two while they are on sale instead of waiting until the middle of the year when they are full price. We will also be checking garage sales between now and then to find any good deals on those items. Don’t be tempted to buy things that you wouldn’t normally use, though, just because they’re on sale.
 
*Go through last year's school supplies to see which things are still usable. If my student has a working calculator, the Bank of Mom will not extend credit for a new one.
 
*Limit activities to one at a time. Activity fees can add up fast. One at a time is the rule at our house. If you can’t afford the activity, it doesn’t hurt for the kids to use their own money to pay for it. The best way to teach them money management is to let them manage their own money when they have nothing to lose, instead of after they have maxed out the credit cards someone persuaded then to sign up for in college.
 
Tawra Kellam is the author of  Dining On A Dime Cookbook. For more free tips and recipes visit her web site at http://www.LivingOnADime.com/ .  In 5 years, Tawra and her husband paid off $20,000 personal debt on an average income of $22,000 per year. 


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Spending More Than You Make
by:  Terry Rigg

When you spend more money than you make each month you are bound to have money problems very quickly. The bad part is that
most of us never realize we are spending that much until it'stoo late.

How many times have you used the credit cards to buy a TV,school clothes and supplies, fixed the car, or any number of
things and not realized that you just exceeded your monthly income. You may have even realized it but thought there is
always next month.

Credit cards are the biggest culprit but they aren't the only way to spend more than you make. Things like payday loans or car
title loans also come to mind. Paying $15 to use $100 for a week doesn't seem too bad. However, when you consider that you are
paying almost 400% in interest over a years time these loans make interest on credit cards look like a great deal.

Normally, installment loans have a lower interest than either credit cards or payday loans but they can still cause problems
if you aren't positive that you can make the payments each month.

I consider a house payment and the purchase of a car the only real legitimate reasons for paying interest. Very few people
have the means to make these purchases with cash. If you aren't careful you can still get yourself into trouble by buying or
renting more house that you can afford or having car payments that don't fit your budget.

I just recently received an email from a lady stating that her and her husband wanted to buy a new car but really didn't know
if they could afford it. This family probably saved themselves a lot of headaches just by asking that question. I wrote back
showing her how they could determine if they could afford the car or not.

My answer to her question was to have her develop a budget, listing all of the other bills and expenses they have, and then
see what's left over. I also reminded her that she should consider the extra costs like insurance, maintenance, etc.

Over the years I have seen people with as little as $500 a month income manage their finances very well while someone else
with $5000 income can't make it last the entire month. It all boils down to planning. If you plan your bills and purchases
each month with the goal of not exceeding your income, you can make it on almost any income.


Terry Rigg is the editor of the Budget Stretcher web site and developer of The Complete Budget and Bill Organizer and the Debt Elimination Summary. To Subscribe to The FREE Budget Stretcher Newsletter and receive the online version of The Complete Budget and Bill Organizer absolutely free just visit his home page at http://www.homemoneyhelp.com
 


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